@theresascroft Listen. How to add identity to someone in pain. #iamaspiritualbeing #identitykeys #listen ♬ Sad piano ballad (moist / BGM)(936730) - TrickSTAR MUSIC
An Australia Cry!
Will you stop and listen? Yes. I’m still in Australia. No. I don’t feel neglected by you thanks to Facebook, Facetime and Instagram. (insert smiley face)
I sure appreciate you opening this e-mail or post and reading my thoughts to you here or on my blog or even on tiktok. You validate my feelings and many of you have been doing that since Dave passed June 5th.
Thank you so very much. My heart has been comforted. You have given me hope and peace. You have listened to me making me be seen and loved.
So, I’m processing something deep that I don’t feel quite ready to share.
I sure appreciate you opening this e-mail or post and reading my thoughts to you here or on my blog or even on tiktok. You validate my feelings and many of you have been doing that since Dave passed June 5th.
Thank you so very much. My heart has been comforted. You have given me hope and peace. You have listened to me making me be seen and loved.
So, I’m processing something deep that I don’t feel quite ready to share.
BUT…I’m learning something huge that is like words to my heart concerning identity.
As you may or may not know, for the past four years lead an online Kingdom Mentor Academy where the main mission was to help you find your voice from a place of identity.
The core thought: Your voice is wired into your DNA coming from your true identity.
The core thought: Your voice is wired into your DNA coming from your true identity.
I believe a big part of that identity is when you understand the truth that “you exist; you matter; you have value…and you are enough.”
Often this happens for the good kind of identity reinforcement when you connect with someone who will speak life in those deep areas of your heart and emotions.
The sad thing I see is when I don’t listen or try to connect with someone with no room for them to be seen or be validated in their words, whether expressing pain or something else giving them room to be able to vent or process.
There is so much more to this whole thought including concerning one’s emotions and the issues around them.
There is so much more to this whole thought including concerning one’s emotions and the issues around them.
Sometimes you just need to eat a big bowl of popcorn together and talk to a friend, giving each other space to communicate.
But for now can I leave you with a couple of tiktoks (just a way I’ve been thinking out loud and sharing) and these paragraphs from a couple who are teaching some ground breaking tools to help you communicate with a loved one:
“We connect with people from whom we receive Identity. We are coded to move toward those people. We do not connect with people from whom we do not receive Identity, particularly if we lose Identity. We are coded to move away from those people. The need for Identity is not good or bad, right or wrong; it simply is.
“If you disregard a person’s experience, you disregard the person. Conversely, if you regard a person’s experience, you regard the person. We often think those can be separated, but they cannot.”
Hill, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis; Hill-Vetter, Echo. The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave (p. 90). Connectioncodes. Kindle Edition.
Click here or on the video above/below to “hear” my heart in a tiktok.
Be you.
I see you and love you.
In the Vine,
Theresa
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good words in both print and video, Theresa! You are always a blessing.!
I always so appreciate your constant replies to my emails and now here!! Thank you Gary!!